I’ve been frustrated in landing on an approach & style with writing/blogging – what to say, how to say it, what to write about, in a way that doesn’t feel forced. And it’s quite clear: trying to force something doesn’t work.

One of the least productive things I’ve done is looking at others for inspiration. While the looking part is not the negative, it’s the inevitable “I suck” I’ll never get it” comparisons and general feeling of inadequacy that emerges.

And trying to do what comes naturally for another is equally ineffective. Not only does it feel wrong, it’s not sustainable in the long run.

So it’s sort of concluded that finding a voice isn’t something that just happens for most of us. Sure there are those who seem to have an endless supply of fairy dust (you know the type – everything they do no matter what they do is brilliant) but the reality for most of us … growth & time, and good old fashioned work (em writing).

I’m reminded of how it felt when I was trying to “find a style” of photography that felt like me. And I was miserable in what became an obsession for a defining look – needing “something spectacular and mind blowing” (could I be more egotistical? Seriously!)

It’s critical for me to remember that when I wasn’t looking or trying or forcing to find what was within naturally emerged. And while I know this truth, it’s been a bugger to put into practice with this writing thing because the sense of self-importance and attachment to that is still noticeable.

Trying to impress or move someone to emotion or be silly or whatever doesn’t work. For me, it’s all about being natural, genuine, real – when anything is created from that space, others get it. They feel it cause it’s honest.

Do I have blogging all figured out yet? Nope. I don’t. But I know the path to understanding my way with it will be found by doing it.